An update on the dating front seems to be in order.
No dates yet. I have, however, received messages from many men on Facebook expressing interests. But, since I'm looking for something long term and local and the closest man was in Washington D.C. I don't consider this a victory, but an ego boost.
Eharmony has generated no dates, chats, or mutual interests for me. I'm kind of regetting spending my very hard earned money on the lack of results. Sure they're sent me plenty of matches, but again, if they aren't paying members, it doesn't go any where.
I'm thinking of giving Plentyoffish.com a try. And I'll be honest, I was pulled in by the commercial. If you haven't seen it it's a split screen one side features a man and the other side a woman. The commercial follows them as they do the same things at the same time, all though separately. Implying that your other half is out there. And when I see it, every single time, I think, "You know what? He IS out there." And I completely buy into it. I'm really gullible sometimes, I know! But I think I'll give it a try, because it literarily doesn't cost me anything. Oh the possibilities.
On the downside, I'm feeling incredibly randy. And I know that I'm not currently dating anyone, but I don't want to have this mind set when I do. Otherwise, it'll be so hard to hold true to the newly implemented "Four Month" rule. It's like in the article I scanned in Men's Health magazine, it referred to a "Slut Gene". Is this what men really think? That if you try to get a woman to sleep with you and she does, she's a slut AND it's genetic! So, there's no hope of finding love in a woman you slept with on the first date. Can't a girl just be interested in you enough to want to be intimate? If she is that bitch is a slut and you can't turn that ho into a housewife. It makes me glad that I'll be applying the "Four Month Rule" for the next man I date, just in case he's closed-minded enough to believe some crap like that. And if he is, he'll probably also think that I'm a prude for wanting to want four months anyway. So it's a win/win. Yay for forced sexual restrictions?
Friday, January 14, 2011
The Trouble With Parents
Since I've lost my job, I've had to move back in with my parents. It hasn't been the best of arrangements.
my mother is really starting to act as if, now that I have a job, I should just hand over my entire paycheck to her every week. I appreciate everything she and my father have done for me, but I'm already giving you $100.00 a week ($400.00 a month)how are you considering that money only rent? It seems that it didn't occur to her that none of that money was to go toward paying you back the money that I have borrowed from you? In all honesty, if I could afford 400.00 a month in rent alone, why the hell would I be living with my parents?
All-in-all, I really miss having my own personal space. Coming home to my dog, my bed, my apartment. I miss cooking in my own kitchen, knowing where everything is, putting away dishes away when i feel like it, etc. And damn it, I just miss all of the amenities that come with being on your own, like having "over-night" guests, not being asked where I'm going when I leave, not feeling I have to call if I'm not coming home 'til morning. "God bless the child that's got it's own" is such an accurate statement.
The sad fact for me, I realize, is that I probably won't have the money to move out until November or December. I decided that I want to buy a car before I move out and at a rate of saving $100 a week, I need to save for 20 weeks for $2,000 for a car plus insurance. With that I also need furniture, not a lot but some, and i have to pay for utilities, which is usually electric, cable, and internet. I have, however decided that I will not be getting cable this time. It's far too expensive for me during me period of rebuilding. I'll just watch Netflix instant view for $8 a month. So calculating all of my expenses, ie; furniture, utilities, deposit, etc, I think I need $2500 to move. So, after I finish paying my friends and family back, I can start saving $700 a month to move. I figure $700 a month will be about what I would pay in rent and utilities any way. My current situation only highlights my need to finish my degree, so that I can make more money.
my mother is really starting to act as if, now that I have a job, I should just hand over my entire paycheck to her every week. I appreciate everything she and my father have done for me, but I'm already giving you $100.00 a week ($400.00 a month)how are you considering that money only rent? It seems that it didn't occur to her that none of that money was to go toward paying you back the money that I have borrowed from you? In all honesty, if I could afford 400.00 a month in rent alone, why the hell would I be living with my parents?
All-in-all, I really miss having my own personal space. Coming home to my dog, my bed, my apartment. I miss cooking in my own kitchen, knowing where everything is, putting away dishes away when i feel like it, etc. And damn it, I just miss all of the amenities that come with being on your own, like having "over-night" guests, not being asked where I'm going when I leave, not feeling I have to call if I'm not coming home 'til morning. "God bless the child that's got it's own" is such an accurate statement.
The sad fact for me, I realize, is that I probably won't have the money to move out until November or December. I decided that I want to buy a car before I move out and at a rate of saving $100 a week, I need to save for 20 weeks for $2,000 for a car plus insurance. With that I also need furniture, not a lot but some, and i have to pay for utilities, which is usually electric, cable, and internet. I have, however decided that I will not be getting cable this time. It's far too expensive for me during me period of rebuilding. I'll just watch Netflix instant view for $8 a month. So calculating all of my expenses, ie; furniture, utilities, deposit, etc, I think I need $2500 to move. So, after I finish paying my friends and family back, I can start saving $700 a month to move. I figure $700 a month will be about what I would pay in rent and utilities any way. My current situation only highlights my need to finish my degree, so that I can make more money.
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Temporary Time
In an effort to earn an income, I've started a temp job today. An agency contacted me last week and asked me to come in for an interview. I was hesitant since I was determined to find something permanent on my own. But, I figured I wasn't getting the interviews I wanted so maybe I could use a little help. They had me come in do an interview, do a few tests and told me that they had a position for me starting today. So, my day started at 9 this morning at my new temporary job.
The issues with this job, for me; are the pay rate, I'm making considerably less than before as my old permanent job. My hours after training will be 11 am to 8 pm. and I have to work on Sundays. It's a bit of a pain that it''s not a regular 9-5 but it's work and should keep me off the unemployment line.
The company that I'll be working for is a nationally known weight-loss company. I'll be working in the customer service department. It seems like a nice place to work. The staff all seem very nice, to me. There hasn't been any mention of permanent jobs yet, but I'm hopeful. Mostly because they have very nice gym, that I would love to use, and i would love some health insurance benefits! The training is so very very boring. It's filled with nothing but the obvious things that people should know, if you've ever worked in customer service. But hey, it beats a blank.
I'm also continuing to hunt for a job on my own. Updating my resume, posting to job sites and networking. Since, I've been a corporate trainer it's been an up hill climb finding the same job again. Since not that many companies are hiring, what's the point in hiring a trainer? So, I'm going with the basics that I started my career in, customer service. Since this seems to be a back to basics kind of year for me, why not. I'm also looking for something that allows me the time to start classes a Gwynedd-Mercy in a few weeks. Also, in that case, I'm looking for something that offers tuition reimbursement. That way, I can pay a little bit less on my student loans. Yay school and the opportunities (financial responsibilities) that it brings!
The issues with this job, for me; are the pay rate, I'm making considerably less than before as my old permanent job. My hours after training will be 11 am to 8 pm. and I have to work on Sundays. It's a bit of a pain that it''s not a regular 9-5 but it's work and should keep me off the unemployment line.
The company that I'll be working for is a nationally known weight-loss company. I'll be working in the customer service department. It seems like a nice place to work. The staff all seem very nice, to me. There hasn't been any mention of permanent jobs yet, but I'm hopeful. Mostly because they have very nice gym, that I would love to use, and i would love some health insurance benefits! The training is so very very boring. It's filled with nothing but the obvious things that people should know, if you've ever worked in customer service. But hey, it beats a blank.
I'm also continuing to hunt for a job on my own. Updating my resume, posting to job sites and networking. Since, I've been a corporate trainer it's been an up hill climb finding the same job again. Since not that many companies are hiring, what's the point in hiring a trainer? So, I'm going with the basics that I started my career in, customer service. Since this seems to be a back to basics kind of year for me, why not. I'm also looking for something that allows me the time to start classes a Gwynedd-Mercy in a few weeks. Also, in that case, I'm looking for something that offers tuition reimbursement. That way, I can pay a little bit less on my student loans. Yay school and the opportunities (financial responsibilities) that it brings!
Sunday, January 2, 2011
Love and other matters.
In an effort to find a meaningful relationship. I decided to give eHarmony.com a try. I've tried it before a few years ago and I wasn't so lucky. I've also tried chemistry.com in the past. Neither one of these sites lead me Tina meaningful relationship, in fact, the latter only offered me the potential of a date with someone that wasn't serious about a relationship and lots of emails about potential matches, most of whom didn't respond because they weren't paying members.
So, I'm back at this well again. I'm thinking that I can't be the only one looking for a relationship this year so, I figured this would be a good place to start since it's been a few years since I've tried it and since they boast so many couples have met through their site, why not. I've also signed up for meetup.org. Because I figure that I need to expand my social circle a little, since all of my friends are in couples and I'm their only single friend. It's a sad fact, I've found myself being in a couple circle and I'm not in a couple. And, I don't want to find myself being a "singleton".
There will be updates on the relationship front, regularly.
So, I'm back at this well again. I'm thinking that I can't be the only one looking for a relationship this year so, I figured this would be a good place to start since it's been a few years since I've tried it and since they boast so many couples have met through their site, why not. I've also signed up for meetup.org. Because I figure that I need to expand my social circle a little, since all of my friends are in couples and I'm their only single friend. It's a sad fact, I've found myself being in a couple circle and I'm not in a couple. And, I don't want to find myself being a "singleton".
There will be updates on the relationship front, regularly.
Saturday, January 1, 2011
2011, a new begining.
The being the first day of the first month of 2011, I decided to write a blog about the adventures and mis-adventures of trying to get my life back together. In the past 5 months, I've lost my job, moved back in with my parents, and found myself single, with no prospects of a relationship.
I decided that 2011 is the for rebuilding my life, to no only get me back to where I was, but to be better than before. I don't want to find myself in the situation again, jobless, love-less, and feeling hopeless.
I've been considering many avenues for, what I'm referring to as, Kittie #3.
Like so many others, I've lost a lot due to my own personal economic crisis, that I've found myself in. I've decided no to let these failures define me as a person. I do sometimes feel like I've lost everything and want to sit around all day feeling sorry for myself. But, I can't let this be my lot in life.
With that being said, here is the list of my goals for 2011, in no particular order;
1. Find a job that pays me well, or as well as I used to get paid, and that provides health benefits.
2. Move out of my parents house.
3. Complete the Broad Street Run in May
4. Rebuild my savings
5. Buy another car
6. Start a loving, caring, relationship with a man
7. Buy a new MacBook
8. Travel to Europe again
This is just a preliminary list. I'm sure it will grow steadily as the year progresses. I've decided to chronical my attempts at completeing all of my goals this year.
Wish my luck! PLEASE!
I decided that 2011 is the for rebuilding my life, to no only get me back to where I was, but to be better than before. I don't want to find myself in the situation again, jobless, love-less, and feeling hopeless.
I've been considering many avenues for, what I'm referring to as, Kittie #3.
Like so many others, I've lost a lot due to my own personal economic crisis, that I've found myself in. I've decided no to let these failures define me as a person. I do sometimes feel like I've lost everything and want to sit around all day feeling sorry for myself. But, I can't let this be my lot in life.
With that being said, here is the list of my goals for 2011, in no particular order;
1. Find a job that pays me well, or as well as I used to get paid, and that provides health benefits.
2. Move out of my parents house.
3. Complete the Broad Street Run in May
4. Rebuild my savings
5. Buy another car
6. Start a loving, caring, relationship with a man
7. Buy a new MacBook
8. Travel to Europe again
This is just a preliminary list. I'm sure it will grow steadily as the year progresses. I've decided to chronical my attempts at completeing all of my goals this year.
Wish my luck! PLEASE!
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